Give up defining yourself – to yourself or to others. You won’t die, you will come to life. And don’t be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it is their problem.
– Eckhart Tolle
This was one quote where I had a difficult time not falling in love with the very moment I read it. As soon as I entered the UPSC stream, it was fun listening to various people and their opinions as to how an aspirant should be. The most common words were dedicated, hard working, sincere, punctual, bla bla bla…. Some even went to the extent of defining that an aspirant is someone who studies 20Hrs a day and sleeps for only 4! Got me thinking – if that is the case, I would certainly have second thoughts on whether I should be appearing at all!
The fun part was getting over all those definitions. I find it really funny as to how voiceful some people are when it comes to defining how a civil servant should be. I would not want to challenge them, however I would like to ask one question, what are these definitions doing? Are they motivating us towards our goals, are they bringing us closer and sometimes to the extent – “Do these definitions even matter?”. I believe we are here to appreciate an exam which challenges in various streams. Granted that we come with a few strengths in some areas and some areas where we have to work in. The exams ask just that, not how many hours you studied, not whether you sanctimoniously followed a list amongst many other things. The exam just asks a skill set from us and we are here to find a way to deliver the same. Why bother about the definitions in the first place? We may perhaps come to life and start looking at wider solutions if not 🙂
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